Finding Love After Divorce
When I got married the first time, I imagined being married forever. I imagined the day I would celebrate my 50th wedding anniversary, just as my grandparents did when I was a young girl. But after almost 11 years of marriage, that dream was gone. I would not see an 11th wedding anniversary…yet alone a 50th.
Divorce left me feeling bitter, sad and without hope for a happy relationship in the future. When I saw others getting married, I said to myself one of two things – (1) “They’d better start saving now for their divorce,” or (2) “Just wait until they really get to know each other. It won’t last!”
After my divorce, I also found that my self-confidence was extremely low. I believed that I was broken…that I was damaged…that I had baggage that no one could or would want to deal with in a relationship. It took me quite some time to realize I was wrong!!!
I dated quite a few jerks as a single woman, but then I met him. I met a man who loved his children and wanted to spend as much time with them as possible. A man who thought I was beautiful and smart and that he was lucky to have found me. A man who loves my kids as if they were his own. A man who puts my wants and needs above his own just to see me happy. A man I never imagined seeing myself with. A man who is my best friend.
My main purpose of this post is not to gush over my boyfriend or to say my life is perfect, but to let you know that finding love after divorce IS possible and probable. My advice is to figure out who you are, what you like, and what you want out of life. Don’t go looking for it because that’s when you’ll find it. And lastly, be patient. Yes – I just said to be patient (one of my major flaws and something I’m still working on).
I know from my personal experience that it is possible to find love after divorce.